The Peacock Cometh
Sister and Brother duo and fellow yogis Alison J. Kay PhD and David M. Kay CMT go beyond the standard personal development talk to get underneath the hood of today's unprecedented, universal spiritual awakening to help us discover indeed what else is possible.
The Peacock Cometh
Episode 13: Next Level Acceptance
Use Left/Right to seek, Home/End to jump to start or end. Hold shift to jump forward or backward.
The sum and total of the spiritual path can be summarized by ever increasing awareness. We can tune into this awareness at any given moment for our highest good. When we become aware of what we are doing and why we are doing it there are untold levels of expansion available to us. The first step for changing anything is awareness. Woven into this is cultivating acceptance of whatever it is within ourselves that we're now aware of and from here the up leveling can begin. Any concept of the word 'should' is counterproductive so we leave that behind in favor of gentle, compassionate acceptance.
In this episode Alison and David get into the crumbling vibrational support for harsh, fear based approaches to ourselves and each other in favor of a more nourishing, enriching and empowering reality of continuous upliftment all the while acknowledging the duality of rising challenges to even the most mundane activities of daily existence.
In this episode of The Peacock Cometh, sister and brother duo - Alison J. Kay and David M. Kay - go deep into:
• Why so many people feel resistance to joy
• The hidden momentum behind your current life
• How conditioning, karma, and past patterns shape your choices
• The difference between tolerating life… and being lit up by it
• Why unfamiliarity with lightness keeps people stuck
• How subtle energy, consciousness, and momentum actually work
This isn’t about forcing change.
It’s about recognizing the momentum you’re already in and choosing something different.
Because the truth is - You are always building momentum.
The only question is:
👉 toward what?
Welcome to the Peacock Cometh with me, David MK, and my sister, Dr. Allison J.K. If you're enjoying these conversations, look for more offerings on our YouTube channels, Facebook, and our websites, Allisonjk.com and DavidMK.com. I I thought of this to share with you today. I read, you know how we were talking, and I know how you you you always love to talk about the you know the eight limbs of yoga and and and asana being just I was actually having that conversation with someone um recently who's relatively new to yoga and um was saying saying something very and you hear folks say this and I love it. It's um it's so endearing. I say because I can totally relate to it, say something like I can't do all the poses yet, but yeah, and it's it's just such an introduction to just just gently um just I can't do headstand. I mean, I hurt I hurt myself pretty good uh years ago. I think you might remember, like it's like my ego is my ego is practicing yoga asana for me.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, and that comes from somebody with a background in the weight training and even a personal trainer in another lifetime, right? That you were too.
SPEAKER_03So well, that's part of what gets us in trouble. Well, especially, I mean, I don't know, especially those of us men and women who consider ourselves like strong, who like work out otherwise. It's very easy in some of those asana classes to just like I remember one teacher at one time just um and I don't know if this was during teacher training or prior to that, who that was who said that, but just just how easy it is for strong people to just muscle our way through you know, of more uh poses. And it's just I don't know, it's just I don't know, it's just so the opposite of what what divine union is, but yeah, yoga is union, right? But the what I wanted to share with you uh was that I was reading Can I break in before you share?
SPEAKER_00Will you remember?
SPEAKER_03Yeah, go ahead, go ahead.
SPEAKER_00All right, thank you. Um, so I was just recently with somebody, and I don't want to say who it is because I don't um we both know him. It's one of our brothers.
SPEAKER_01Well, there you go. Just narrowed it down. Okay.
SPEAKER_00And um he was having some back challenges, and so um I helped him with some energy medicine and then asked him after like 10 minutes, I did three rounds of treating the area, and then I um asked him to go walk around the first two breaks in between, and then before the third interval, I asked him to actually stretch. And there was this bouncing that a lot of people do with stretching that isn't even good when you're not even in the yoga world, you know.
SPEAKER_01I love it when dad goes out for walks and I watch him spread his feet apart, start bending to go boom, just start bouncing up and down. I just oh I love it. I love it.
SPEAKER_00I don't know where that ever came in from. Maybe it's maybe it's the 80s, like I'm getting flashes of leg warmers um in margarine.
SPEAKER_03Um as we sit here in judgment on our high horses about that's not how you stretch. It's go ahead, go ahead.
SPEAKER_00I'm just trying to think back when I ran cross-country in high school, if I ever was in the bouncing. Anyway, um and so I remember like not I remember, so I was helping him in in the midst of like, because he's been doing so good with the meditation work, and and he has this, him and Heidi together, each of them, to have these unique intel intelligences, I think is the best way to say it. Um, and they've been cultivating this. I mean, Heidi has that creative and um scientific background too, between both parents and and Alan with you know, his Star Trek and all of his background.
SPEAKER_03Um smart people, smart, smart folks in vast intelligences, though. Intellectual, yeah.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. And and watching the progress each of them report with meditation um to me, just seeing like guiding Alan to okay, okay. I just gave his name right.
SPEAKER_01Um we know what you already said it, you already said his wife's name. You narrowed it down by 50%. It was coming. Go ahead.
SPEAKER_00Sorry, Alan. Um but it could be a great teaching moment in your modeling. Um so asking him to use those cultivated skills that he now has, of the increased clarity in his intelligence to be able to also with the increased focus as a result of the meditation, laser focus that consciousness onto when he's in a pose rather than the rocking, like look at where the tightness begins. Like just simply pulling. Because he asked me a question about bringing the knees to the chest and then wrapping the arms around the knees. And I was like, please stop that now. Don't ever do it again. And and bring your knees, yeah, but just start to bring your knees to your chest and notice where the very start of pain happens and hold it there, and then use the focus of your concentration onto visualizing that area as being loose and free. Because one of the things I've been perceiving is how much more our thoughts are able to create reality, just even in the last month, comparatively to the month before that, and then adding that with his own um progress, you know. So I was just recently taking him out of the I must accomplish this approach to you know, to the the the poses and into the actual general, genuine rather concept of of yoga, the mind, the applying the mindfulness to it. And and it was it was interesting because he was ready to hear that. He was ready, and he was ready to even apply it. God bless him.
SPEAKER_03That's a and that's a there's a direct correlation there be to just how we are, just how we are in life, to if you can if if if if I can accept, if I can forget, if I can not look at yoga on Instagram and stuff, and I can just do my practice, and I can accept my body as it is and tune into my body as it is and do the practice and accept myself in that way without any any uh comparison or or or or goal setting, then I can do the same thing in every aspect of our life.
SPEAKER_00Which is what I came on talking about today. I rested instead of the going and the payoff it's been for me.
SPEAKER_03Well, yeah, and and well, and I guess where I was going is like because if you think, and kind of how we I I just started off with that that little bit about about my friend, because if if if I say, well, I can't do all the poses, well, that means I think that I should be able. There's some part of me that thinks I should be able to, right? Not there yet, right? And so it's just so there's that, there's that that word should. So just apply that to like the last time we were talking, and I said, and and when I was screaming at my um at I wasn't screaming because I was because it was it was much lower pitched. I was shouting. I was shout when I was shouting at my car stereo, um, that I should be more centered than that. I should. I should this and I should that. And so it's just there's just it's a really and it's just so it's just such a common way for humans to operate that it's considered normal.
SPEAKER_00Dude, it's the nature of the ego mind to criticize.
SPEAKER_03Well yeah, well yeah, yeah, yeah, but yeah. So but where I was What I was so what I was thinking about when I brought that up, I do love that story about our brother. Um This is and then and this is sort of related to actually what you brought up in in one way. That do you remember I was reading about the uh it was just an introduction, a review of the um the Yamas and Niyamas, the um but Jason, you know we think of them as like the attitudes, the attitudes, the attitudes that we cultivate um as as as a part of um practicing yoga, being being a yogi, right? And what I read was that they're directional. And I got very curious about what what what he meant by that, that they're directional. And what I came to was it's just so encouraging. Like uh do you remember well by contrast, do you remember like growing up on Passover watching that movie uh The Ten Commandments? Yeah, look at your face, right? Like, right so like For those of you who can't see the video, I just made a face. Transcraft, right? It's like it reminds me of it reminds watching that movie, it's kind of like people watching The Wizard of Oz.
SPEAKER_00Like you pretending it's exact opposite direction, though, of joy level.
SPEAKER_03Well, no, here's well, no, I disagree because I find Wizard of Oz terrifying. What part? The whole thing, the entire movie is terrifying. Oh, you would David. But I but but you sit there and you watch that movie and you pretend like you're enjoying it. You pretend like, oh, it's a good story. It's so it's so compelling. It's and it's the same thing with the Ten Commandments. I remember growing up with that movie. It's it's so interesting and um and so many dramatic things happen, and it was terrifying.
SPEAKER_00Really, it was just uh so totally different experiences going on with these two movies you're mentioning.
SPEAKER_03Well, then forget about the Wizard of Oz for just a second and focus on it on the Ten Commandments because this relates to something you and I have talked about as far as like the way that that I experienced religion as a boy. Um and so that movie, because I always watched it because I had this this this thing growing up that even if something was scary, I'd watch it anyway because I was interested. You know, that kind of like I don't know.
SPEAKER_00Oh, you would do that.
SPEAKER_03I don't think I'm unique in that way. Like you just you kind of can't take your eyes off something. So, anyway, that's what how that movie was for me. But if you look at the Ten Commandments, like as they were presented, like it's like it's thou shalt not, thou shalt not. That right, it's that sort of don't do these things or else. So it just this that very like the ten command. That's the way I received them. I think I've spoken to this to about this to you before. When I was reading about the Yamas and Niamas, and and I had read them before. Um look how much gentler you are and thought about them before, but I don't know that I'd ever this that this ever dawned on me where uh you totally shifted and you're like all relaxed and gentle now.
SPEAKER_00And you were like this authoritative kind of like before.
SPEAKER_03Well, I'm contrast. I'm putting my experience right. I mean, I this is this is authentic. I mean, this is really because I do relax, I relax right in. This is why I this is why I practice yoga. This is why I why, you know, but uh what I'm trying in a very apparently long-winded way, trying to get across is what they what he meant by directional was that you as you there, it's not like you read these these these these attitudes, these do's and don'ts, and you need to um uh uh start implementing, let's start practicing those um from the very beginning, or else it's just these are the attitudes that practicing yoga cultivates. So you can make progress with your inner peace as you're like you like they're both they're an end goal. They're attitudes, they're an end goal. So like it's it's like you're working with them and toward them and among them, and all the while your consciousness is changing and you're growing. And it's like there are ways of living that you grow into and your life gets better and uh more peaceful while you're growing into them. And that wow, that is it's just so encouraging. It's just it's like why why not get started? Why not just I mean, talking about like accepting what you're like like a big brother accepting what his body is is right at that moment, what it wants, you know, just accept yourself just as you are and start practicing anything. It's just it's so encouraging. Did that make any sense?
SPEAKER_00Totally. And and and there's a couple of different directions I could go, but the thing that's really pounding out in my consciousness is how much like I am aware of part of what's crumbling in the old paradigm from the old paradigm is that authority, that authoritative stance. Now it's interesting because right now we're in astrology that's helpful with seeking out a mentor to help you along your path, right? Mentor is totally different if it's done effectively than authority figure, right? So yeah, it and and so this idea of like as people are starting to over the past bunch of years take more ownership and agency over their diet um and and and what they're creating, you know, that's removing the authority figure just from the doctor alone. Um and and so the religion aspect of authority figures, um one of the things that's really interesting, and I think you actually said this last week, um, and I didn't want to interrupt at that point what you were saying, the idea of the direct relationship with the divine that happens and is encouraged in yoga versus the more westernized religions with the intermediary to be the communicator to the divine on your behalf for you. Now, that's great because people love a channeler, people love a medium, people love being able to see what they're not seeing with their conscious mind, you know. But that's not how it's historically been used when it's combined with that position of power. Because I mean, you can look at Madame Blavatsky in Russia at the books that she wrote in the eight the 1880s, were um another time of high spiritual activity, especially in here in the States too. I don't want to say, especially in Europe. Madame Blavatsky took a lot of the ancient esoteric and alchemical, more the esoteric mystery understandings from the West and put them forward in a book in the 1880s. That was when seances were popular in the 1880s. You may have seen movies and stuff with the 1880s period dress.
SPEAKER_03No, but I'm I'm I'm interested, I'm curious.
SPEAKER_00So, what I'm getting at though is that like during that time too, there were, and it was more accepted at that time, the channelers, and it is more accepted overall in Europe, in the UK, I feel, than in the States, the aspect of channeling and and mediumship, and that's not, and that's historic. I mean, that's throughout the ages, somebody who has that direct connection, you could think of a chief or shaman of the uh tribe. But even when you go to the shaman or the chief, that still implies positions of power. So part of this is our own projection, right? But I'm getting nitpicky here. If we just talk about priest or rabbi, yeah, right, that's it, and we think of like what the church has done throughout history, you know, I mean, the Mary Magdalene Gospel not being a part of all the other gospels and not being discovered in the desert until the 1940s, you know, I mean, in her getting written out of the Bible, and then the art forms in the Renaissance creating her to be as a whore, you know, like just in the Committee of Nicaea in the 400s when they met to decide on, okay, now that Christianity is so much more widespread, what do we want this religion to focus on? You know, Judaism used to believe in reincarnation. So all of these choices and decisions that men in positions of power made historically has led us to the experience nowadays where the majority of people are uncomfortable with that old form of authority. Even and you can see in our some of the most apparent leaders in the world right now. It just isn't, it's like when Ukraine was invaded, I was like, okay, read the room globally. Like, what are you doing? So, okay. That having been say that.
SPEAKER_03What'd you say? That's just an interesting way to say that.
SPEAKER_00Read the room globally. Um, so I the the the four I I I feel like part of what you were describing and and I was perceiving from the Moses positioning. I mean, that's the old that's the old paradigm, totally, with the thou shalt and the shoulds and the authority and the fear. That's in a particular part of it because part of what you're I also hear you saying is you're talking about the inspiration provided from the yamas versus like the fear inducement from like commandments. So all of that speaks to the heart. But the the fear speaks to the mind, and the inspiration speaks to the heart. And we are coming into the heart times over the mind. Which we spent the last bunch of centuries developing from the age of reason. Yeah, now we're coming back into balance between the two.
SPEAKER_03Well, there you go. I I was uh Well, there you go.
SPEAKER_00We're done. All problems.
SPEAKER_03Almost. We are we're almost done because what you just made me think about was that um because there's so many, and and I love I love how I mean it's it's true that that now um the teachings that I am drawn to are are are are are um from from um are very focused, but uh but it it took a lot to get here. And one of the things that I um had played with for a time was a course in miracles. And I don't think that um, and I don't think that it was I don't pretend that I got full, I mean, because that's that's a serious, significant course sort of thing. I I think I just maybe read like one book or one, like a a short course sort of just I was just kind of dabbling and I read read a book and and read it again, and um and why I don't think I I I hope that I'm right. I don't think that I'm pulling it from the wrong place, but I love how it just kind of comes together and matches up everything else that's that that's been because in there it was talking about there's really only two ways to ever be in the world. You're always at any uh given moment either in fear or in love. And so you're either so you're either in your head or in your heart, right? If if you're just saying one speaks fear, fear speaks to one and um inspiration speaks to the other if l love speaks uh to the heart. I mean, I can even th think about it in terms of um I don't know, I just find that I find that so simple because you because you can think about all of the other uh ways to be, right? It's it's not it's not well it's not just fear and not and not just love, David, right? Because there's because there's because there's there's anger and there's worry and there's frustration and there's joy, and there's in like in like yeah, anxiety, there's all those things, but all of like anxiety, well that's fear. Anger, well that's like it's all uh basically all of that stuff gets lumped into fear and all the other stuff gets lumped into love. So I just find it, I don't know, we because things can get so complex and we and we make things complex. I'm always a fan of simplifying it. So if I can simplify it down to well, in this moment, am I in fear or I'm or am I in love? You know, just do just and that's just a question of what where is my where is my consciousness, right?
SPEAKER_00So um where am I allowing my consciousness to focus? Or even more so, where am I directing my consciousness to focus? And and and and that's one of our key powers.
SPEAKER_03I'm sorry, go ahead.
SPEAKER_00That's one of our key powers.
SPEAKER_03That's that's like the the discrimination, right? The the the the ability to well, we were talking um about being centered, right? Being centered is being able to not shout at your radio. Yeah, yeah. Well, that's why, and that's why when you said, well, no, that's why I was adamant that I was not centered. I was I lost it. I had lost my center because in that moment I had. lost the ability to discriminate you know what was what was what was actually happening what was actually important I was just I and I I witnessed something it was so I was wondering I was on my way home today and wondering if I would bring this up to you and here I am because it's I just I just witnessed something I was walking um I was walking into the market you do the what's that yeah I do spend are you like like some people that's like a form of entertainment for me like I can some people like shop in Target or go shopping like for clothes or so they go shopping for knickknacks or whatnot.
SPEAKER_00I used to be like that at Whole Foods uh and then when COVID hit and I started to do the home delivery I haven't come out of the home delivery uh that much I mean I'm going to the markets more nowadays uh but I'm still using the home delivery because it's a nice saver of time. It is yeah but yeah I hear you on the entertainment factor for sure.
SPEAKER_03I'm I I but I don't um you gotta watch out for that because that can that can become particular depending on what store like Whole Foods is an example. I mean if you go in there just like shopping just like I think I'll try this and I think I'll try that you will spend a lot of money $30,000 later help me check but I witnessed some uh some guy beeped at another guy and the guy in front stopped his car the car uh was still moving so he must have like had it holy cow drive but his foot but taken his foot off the gas because he got out of the car to like go confront this uh other fella he realized what he'd done in the parking lot dude in the parking lot like right in front of the market um and I was because there was a because there was a road that would kind of continued through the parking lot it wasn't just a parking lot like you you could get from one way to the other it was this was down this was down south it wasn't right around here okay okay but um anyway he so he got back in the car just enough to put his car in park and then came out and shouted at this other guy and this other guy was shouting back at him and then they had a little shout back he got back in his car they were honking and and I was just I was just walking closer to New York City in other words yeah but what I noticed though and I guess this is I am I am glad that I decided to bring this up because what I what I'm noted just thinking about right now in this moment are just just how much compassion I had for those two guys like I like like I was thinking about as I was driving I was driving uh uh up the road after that I had I went in and did my marketing came out so this is you know half hour later and I was driving up the road and just thinking like I was imagining I was replaying the scenario like imagine what might have happened if I'd have just walked up to that the first guy who got out like if I if I'd put myself into this into the moment like into this situation intervened not not like hey you know that's but just what I what I was um what I was imagining what I was imagining doing was just was I don't know was just saying something to the first man just uh is this really is this really how you want to be right now because damn pissed in the face right well yeah that could very easily have happened but I don't know that I don't know that it would have because there's more that happens than just words when you say words. I mean it it depends on the uh it depends on the you know what the moment is and if it if it uh if it's able to to be received and kind of where I'm coming at with the energy but coming at in in I was just because there was he had I actually heard a woman's voice from the passenger seat say I got her than the first car for the guy who got out to say what she said whatever his name was and then said stop like she was like trying to calm him down right that that's what I that's what I overheard. So I'm just thinking about the whole scenario and just like oh I don't know I just I just felt for them like what that what that what that feels like to just become just to be not in your center. And I was and I thought back to shouting at my radio like I know I I know what that feels like thankfully when I was shouting at my radio it was just my radio it wasn't another person you know but I don't know it just there's um it's intense on planet earth right now yeah yeah like what was going so what was like somebody beeps at you you don't just instinctively get out of the car. I mean that guy was obviously having a very bad day to begin with right but just you know just stuff good uh stuff stuff just just happening but I I guess maybe the now that I'm saying the whole story I guess maybe that's the thing that's that that's worth bringing up is just how uh just what just what it feels like to view people behaving badly and think and at the same time think that they're doing the best they can I have so much being filtered right now not to say um view people behaving badly and trusting that they're doing the best they can I know what is I know what um I mean i i first off is that even I know we hear that a lot like people are doing the best they can I don't know that I agree with that um because there's there's some of the yamas I mean not yamas but the um more low vibrational states of being laziness um that's the first one that comes up you know lazy to not manage yourself you know to let yourself notice the languaging it's so different than just the reaction of let of of I'm not even aware of I have choice here in my reaction or response just reacting without thought but having compassion at the same time like for that guy because I know you know America is a particular energy to be living in right now comparatively you know and if I were in another country it would have its own innate conditioning and situation geopolitically and energetically collectively and I know that in England you saw when you no you didn't because you took the train the little country roads that are you know you have to work with the people who come in the opposite direction in England.
SPEAKER_00And sometimes it's a joke of like a Mexican standoff that's what they call it over there where neither person wants to go into reverse and find a place because it's all on all of these country roads and they're considered roads. They're considered A roads and B roads mostly B roads there's side pockets that you can pull into like I would if there's a car coming at me and there's only one car can fit on this lane one of us has to find this a place on the side to pull off into to allow the other to pass.
SPEAKER_03So sometimes there's that Mexican standoff where the um neither one wants to go into reverse and and they're kind of just sitting there like in a dual challenge almost like you're gonna back up I'm not gonna but normally like I I have remarked so many times over there Ireland too Scotland all of the UK that my God do these people work well together and if this were in the States there would be so much more road rage because we're used to so much more space in and etc so I'm bringing that up just out of what I just said like the choice to have reacted and anger and for God's sakes I'm gonna just let myself say this anger is the easiest reactivity for a man you know in this country right now because of the collective consciousness and you said the choice to let yourself react in that way there's no there is no choice by definition because it's a reaction.
SPEAKER_00I know I know but I'm still elevating it to saying there is a choice because on some level that person has to know they're choosing to react like in a split second of the I'm already getting out of the car so quickly and in such reactivity that I'm not even noticing if I'm in park or not right you know in that there was the choice and even maybe maybe even the attention to I got to put my car in park before I do this was the higher self saying hey look at you reacting like there is some moment of awareness maybe not totally conscious where that person could have stopped themselves.
SPEAKER_03And at the same time I'm I'm also you know there's compassion because it is so challenging on planet earth right now and in our country particular the jump to reactivity particularly for the male gender is very well supported collectively energetically all right well we will um I'll let that be the last word I think oh god really no let's have something inspiring in spirit inspiring right so Chinese and yoga culture both believe hearts in the uh spirits in the heart so in spirit inspiring just wanted to throw that in oh I like that yeah okay here's one more david prosperity pro spirit that's two two gems you're throwing out there you got a third no no I don't do all right okay well this was a this was fun to talk to you today he says with a mild bit of surprise all right we gotta go it's nice to see your face thank you for this time thank you thanks big sister next time I love you have a great day enjoy the sun in the heat will do bye bye thank you for tuning in for this conversation if you'd like to give back please follow comment subscribe and share this podcast if you'd like to work with Allison or meditate with me I encourage you to explore our offerings and reach out. You'll find all the links you need to Allison's channels and websites and mine in the description for this episode. Many blessings to you